It can be difficult to talk to a family member about moving to a senior living community, but sometimes it’s the right thing to do. Maybe you’re starting to notice that living independently has become difficult on your family member or that he or she is becoming lonely. Maybe you’ve realized you can’t always be there when your family member needs attention and would like to find a place where they can be properly attended.
You might feel uncomfortable talking about the possibility of moving into senior housing, and maybe even a little guilty. If you’ve done your research and you think this is the best option, here are some tips we hope will make the talk between you and your loved one a little bit easier.
Come prepared. Make sure you know what you’re talking about. Your family member will appreciate that you know that you’ve done your research and that you truly believe this is the best option. Explain the benefits of assisted living to your loved one, and make sure to emphasize that you are doing this for them.
Choose a good time to talk. Make sure you and your loved one are both well rested and in a good mood when you have this conversation. It will be a difficult one, so it is a good idea to have this talk when you are both at your best.
Converse about the subject. In other words, both of you should get the opportunity to speak. Don’t just inform your family member about a decision and then wonder why your family member is upset or uncomfortable with the decision. Talk about the options and the possibilities. Make sure to address any concerns your loved one has in the best way possible. If you have any concerns, bring those up as well.
Create a community of supporters. Make sure to include other family members and loved ones in the decision. It will be helpful to have other people there to lend support to both you and your loved one. If there are people who are willing to help out, take that help. You and your loved one will need it through this process.
Clear your head and then talk again. This isn’t something that will get figured out after one conversation. Give your loved one, as well as yourself, some time to think about the options. Then come together and talk again. The more you talk, the more specific you can start to be, about when the move could happen, which type of housing would be best, and which items your loved one would keep or leave behind.
More than anything, remember to keep in mind what would be of best interest to your loved one. Remember that the priority is to provide a safe living environment for your loved one and to provide the care they need on a daily basis.